Sarah Babs

<p>Lube, in all its glory, is for everyone—as in, everyone should be using it more times than not. And not just using it, but using it creatively.</p>

<p>The lubricant can be made from four different materials: water, oil, petroleum, or silicone. Water-based is the safest option if you're using condoms, plus, it can be easily washed away from your bodies, sheets, whatever, post-coitus. Here are 3 ways you probably aren't but totally should be using lube.</p>

<h3>1. Use it before sex even happens</h3>

<p>Lube has this reputation as being something you pull in off the bench during penetrative sex when a partner is having a harder time maintaining their own lubrication, and this is total BS. Help break this taboo by bringing your new slick friend out during foreplay. Have a partner place some in their palm and grind your vulva and labia against it for a new twist on a hand job for women</p>

<p>The first rule of using warming lube is to never use it without telling your partner first unless you want them thinking you've just put Icy Hot in their private parts). Other than that, there really are no rules–go forth and heat things up! Use a few dabs on your partner's (or your own) nipples for nipple stimulation that's literally hotter than ever.</p>

<p>If you have dry hands, no need to use a moisturizing lotion that could contain unwanted chemicals, especially because you don't want those ingredients inside you. Just apply a few drops of water-based lube to your finger before touching yourself for a smoother feel.</p>

Lube is the neglected hero of sex.

3 ways to use lube during sex

<h1>It all started in such a seemingly innocent form, as I felt his hands could do no wrong and with the firm and masterly touch he had I just wanted him to move lower. </h1>

<p>In fact, I became desperate for him to move lower, parting my legs as he did so, inviting his touch to the private parts of my body.</p>

<p>He was reading my body language and followed perfectly my quiet wishes without speaking. I wanted his fingers to move into my body and respond to my urges. No words were spoken, I just felt his fingers edge deeper into me where they began to build up the intensity.</p>

<p>The sensation was heavenly, and as he played me more, I lay on the table and spread my legs wider, feeling the pleasure rip into my muscles. I struggled to hold back any sound and began to groan as he pounded my wet pussy over and over, my muscles crying out to explode in one overwhelming sensation.</p>

<p>Before I knew it Emeka was pouring more oil and drizzling it over my tits then down onto my stomach and naval as his hands smoothed their way over my flesh, his face watching intently as my body reacted to his touch.</p>

<p>I couldn’t help but smile at him as his fingers took on my thoughts and entered my body. Exploring my growing wetness, which only added to the ease of his fingers moving in and out of me. The combination of my reminiscing of how horny it was and the physical pleasure I was receiving was intense. He could see my face reflect how I was feeling and moved down between my legs allowing his tongue to stroke the creases and mounds of my pussy while his finger continued to arouse my soft moist lips.</p>

<p>Each move and flick of his tongue brought me closer to orgasm, my legs falling more open, I let the pleasure wash over my body as his hardness grew. Seeing him so horny for me I moved down his body to expose his hard dick.</p>

<p>I'm never tired of seeing how sexy he looked when he was fully naked before me, his strong muscular frame on show. I relished the chance to take him in my mouth. Now I was nestled between his legs, looking up at him, while my tongue took long, sensual strokes of his hard dick.</p>

<p>The act I found such a turn on, playing the seductive vixen to his physical presence, watching his eye contact intently as I tasted and sucked, my mouth consuming all I could while working to build pleasure deep into his groin.</p>

<p>I loved how he fucked me and I wanted him deep inside, feeling his hands caress me as he did. I knew it would only be moments until I felt him slide into me, my wetness allowing such ease of moment before he would be thrusting in and out of me in such controlled rhythm. As he lay behind me I felt his hands moving with greater passion over my body and his dick penetrating me.</p>

<p>He was a deliberate and careful lover, taking his time to work my body, teasing my pussy with each penetrating move building up the sensation within me. It wasn’t long before I ached with pleasure, my muscles spasming with intensity that waved through my legs. He collapsed into my arms and we lay for a while kissing.</p>

I loved how he fucked me and I wanted him deep inside, feeling his hands caress me as he did.

How my thirst for a fat D was quenched Part 2 {R-18+}

<h1>As a young girl, I always felt a little shy, it wasn’t that I was modest, rather my body grew a little faster than many other girls in my year at school, and instead of embracing my new found development, I felt far more subconscious of my ample breasts.</h1>

<p>As I grew they became something I tried to keep hidden, yet now as I blossomed as a woman, I became more comfortable in the sexual aura they created. If anything I quickly learned to love them, love the feel of them, touch them, they had become an asset I should have enjoyed long before now.</p>

<p>Running the bath, I started stroking the water as it pooled below. I felt relaxed and warm, the sun comfortably heating the room allowing my nakedness to be a real pleasure and thereby adding a wonderful degree of horniness.</p>

<p>At that moment I thought of Emeka, how he always enjoyed watching me, with or without my clothes on, but definitely without. I would catch him taking a sideways look, I don’t know why he then pretended not to peek, and I rather liked knowing he was taking in the view, feeling his eyes on me, admiring my body.</p>

<p>I soon realized he had always enjoyed watching me, even before we were ever living together. I often just caught his eye giving me that cheeky glance when no one else was. I had enjoyed our friendship way before we had become lovers, I knew we always had a flirty relationship but it was real.</p>

<p>I would often chat away over a few glasses, my language and stories becoming rather more outspoken and loose. Tales of past relationships, naughty endeavours and generally things that turned me on, something we both shared.</p>

<p>Having enjoyed a warm soak in the bath, I wandered into the bedroom. My skin was feeling soft from the water. I stood before the mirror and began to smooth some of the rich clear body oil on to my skin.</p>

<p>As ever I found the sensation pleasantly arousing… feeling the slippery texture soak into my skin, as my hands became warm gliding over my body and down my womanly limbs. Facing the mirror I couldn’t help but feel his eyes were taking in the moment too but I pretended not to be aware, maintaining the pretense that he was just sleeping quietly, oblivious to where I was.</p>

<p>The sensation of hands on me brought back a memory that I still found such a sexual thrill. Maybe that’s why I enjoyed the sensation of oiling myself after a bath, and the more I thought about it, the more I realized that’s why he enjoyed watching me too.</p>

<p>I found it aroused his mind to hear how I behaved. I said that I deliberately flexed my upper arms, allowing the towel to loosen its grip around my chest, slipping it lower down my body to reveal my body beneath. I remember at the time it didn’t worry me to be naked lying before this strange man as his hands kept working their way so intently over my body.</p>

The sensation of hands on me brought back a memory that I still found such a sexual thrill.

How my thirst for a fat D was quenched Part 1 {R-18+}

<h1>You might be tired of asking for sex or waiting for your partner to start.</h1>

<p>Sometimes a little flirty body language can change the game. We’re all for talking about sex and having trust in your relationship—these are the foundation of any healthy sex life and marriage. Here are some body language signs you can use to let your partner know you’re looking to get some.</p>

<h3>1. Lean in when you’re snuggling</h3>

<p>When your partner comes and sits down with you, lean into them. Make lots of eye contact. Removing physical space heightens intimacy, which can excite sexy feelings. If you’re also close to their face, you’re in a better position to lean in for a makeout session…which could lead to sex.</p>

<p>Put your head on the opposite side of the couch and drape your legs over your partner’s lap. While watching a movie, start lightly drawing circles over your lower belly and thighs. Tickle your way all over the area. This will work especially well if you’re wearing a nightie, a skirt, or shorts.</p>

<p>If you’re trying to get your partner to low-key notice that you’re trying to get laid and some of the other body-language techniques are not working—you can always go with the down-under point. Use your hands to draw attention to your vulva. Point at it while you’re talking to your partner, though we don’t mean using your forefingers to literally jab at your lady bits.</p>

<p><em>Do you need someone to talk to about your sexual lifestyle? Do you have questions about sex? Do you want your sex life to be better? Send your questions to hotpulse@pulse.ng</em></p>

Because sometimes hot action speaks louder than words.

3 body language clues to show your partner you're in the mood

<h1>Your partner craves certain things in bed, he may just not be comfortable communicating those cravings or even know how to go about it.</h1>

<p>Below are some sex cravings he has that you may not have recognized.</p>

<h3>1. Allow him to watch you touch yourself</h3>

<p>Visuals are hot. Add in a forbidden fruit style role play, and you’ll have him on his knees. Take out your vibrator or hand, whichever you prefer. Have him sit at the edge of the bed and instruct him not to touch you until you come, or until you tell him he can. Lie back on the pillows like the queen you are, spread your legs and have him watch you masturbate.</p>

<p>Make some noise! Being dead silent is a kink for some, but there are few people who enjoy a church mouse partner during playtime. If something is working for you, say so. So if your partner has his face between your thighs and it feels amazing, don’t forget some encouraging moans.</p>

<p>Communicating your desires is the only way to get what you want in bed. Women are conditioned to take what we’re given and to never speak up. This is BS and your partner does not want you to do this in bed. If you need him to up the ante on foreplay, ask him to go down on your or touch you until you’re properly stimulated for sex.</p>

Here are some amazing tricks for better sex for one and all.

3 things he wants in bed that you may not have considered

<h1>How can I tell my partner about my changing sex drive now that I&amp;#x27;m pregnant?</h1>

<p>During pregnancy, you may experience an extraordinarily high libido, or find that it disappears entirely.</p>

<p>Communication is key during this temporary time in your sex life. Let your partner know how you are feeling during the different changes of your pregnancy as he cannot read your mind.</p>

<p>This is a great time to include sex toys for both of you to maintain passion and fun. It's also a great time to enhance intimacy through kissing, synchronized breathing, and caressing.</p>

<p>Pregnancy is a beautiful time in your life. Don't get stressed out about sex.</p>

Ask Sarah

How can I tell my partner about my changing sex drive?

<h1>There is a lot of pressure to keep sex hot and exciting and not so many articles on taking a break from sex when tired.</h1>

<p>While there is a lot of truth to this advice, the fact remains, sometimes you’re just too damn tired to have sex. However, it's ok to be too tired for sex and that doesn't mean your sex life is over. This is why...</p>

<h3>1. Make sure to listen to your body</h3>

<p>You’re exhausted and want to take a few nights off to rest. On the other hand, you’re told constantly by the media that if you’re too tired for sex, your marriage is in trouble. This clear disregard for our needs can lead to bitterness and exhaustion. You have to give your body what's right for it—and sometimes that means sleep. Listen to your body and help it be its best self.</p>

<h3>2. There are other ways to get really intimate</h3>

<p>We put so much emphasis on keeping sex hot that we forget to mention that there are other ways to feel intimacy with your partner. You can make out and feel in tune. Perhaps you might go out on a dinner date or make a home-cooked meal together. Hold hands, give each other a massage, snuggle, and be lazy. You don’t require wild, passionate sex every night to have a happy marriage.</p>

<h3>3. You don&amp;#x27;t need to have maintenance sex every day</h3>

<p>Maintenance sex shouldn’t be the go-to sex you’re having. If sex is feeling like a burden, it’s perfectly fine to take a break and relax. Sex isn’t a chore to cross off your to-do list. It should be fun—a time to reconnect with your partner and feel a sense of intimacy. If you want to have an orgasm and don’t want to have full-blown sex, masturbate together. It’s intimate and sexy. There is no reason why sex ever has to mean penetration.</p>

Don't push it if your body is telling you to take a break.

It's totally ok to be too tired for sex sometimes

<h1>How do I tell my partner he doesn&amp;#x27;t know how to give me an orgasm?</h1>

<p>You can communicate your needs without hurting anyone's feelings. It's very likely your partner doesn't know he or she isn't making you come.</p>

<p>You're never going to get there by pretending nothing is wrong. If there is something he or she does that you particularly enjoy, ask them to do that thing. For instance, oral sex is an excellent way for a woman to have an orgasm.</p>

<p>Firstly, show them how you like to be touched. Ask them to keep doing what feels good for you. If you can take some time to- focus entirely on your own body, you'll have a better chance of achieving</p>

<p>Also, vibrators are designed to assist you in having an orgasm.</p>

My partner doesn't know how to give me an orgasm

<h1>A woman’s body is one of the most marvelous things on the planet. There is nearly no limit to the pleasure threshold she can experience. As a result, exploring our bodies and communicating our desires can be a challenging proposition.</h1>

<p>So if you’re looking to open up the sexual limits and probe into what she truly craves, try these things to blow her mind during your next round of sex.</p>

<p>If you're a woman, being asked what you want is not a common question. Tell your partner you want to make her feel good and that if she’s unsure what she likes, you’re willing to experiment. If she knows what she likes, do what she says. A woman’s sexual pleasure is regularly put second to her partner’s, so having the focus shifted entirely to her desires is an enormous turn-on.</p>

<p>Pay attention to physical cues. Don’t just do one thing you’re into and forget to pay attention to your partner’s response. If you’re going down on her and she’s pushing her hips into your face, moaning, yeah, you can be pretty sure what you’re doing is working.</p>

<h3>3. Oral sex until she’s finished</h3>

<p>Now, she might love oral sex, but many of us feel guilty for taking too long to orgasm. It can cause us to pull away, try to move into intercourse, or even ask you to stop. Before going down on her, tell her you’re staying down there as long as you feel you need to be down there. Tell her how hot and sexy she is. Then, stay the hell down there until she has an orgasm! </p>

Because all she wants isn't just penetration.

3 things she wants in bed that you may not have recognized

<h1>This is a common dilemma—most of us have been there. If your favorite sex position isn’t working for you anymore, you can do something about it.</h1>

<p>Sex is greatly adventurous to be limited by the sex routines we fall into unknowingly. Sticking to one position is a sex rut. You need more in your life! This is why your favorite sex position isn’t working anymore.</p>

<p>The human body, the vulva especially, is a complex piece of anatomy. The clitoris is like a magical animal of its own. Additionally, the brain is a huge part of what turns you on and right now, your brain is bored with the same routine. It needs something new and fresh to get it excited again. Missionary style might have been your favourite, sexiest go-to thing for years. Now it just isn’t, so its time to try something new.</p>

<h3>2. You’re limiting yourself to what you know</h3>

<p>You’re losing interest in the old faithful because that is exactly what the position has become. Sex needs to be exciting, passionate, and intense. Doing the same position every single time you have sex is not going to be hot forever.</p>

<p>Try new things. You can even spice up your favourite in unique ways. If you love missionary, have you tried it with your hands tied to the bed frame? Not so old anymore, is it? If you love doggy, but it’s getting “meh,” try lying flat and putting your wand vibrator underneath you for a unique ride.</p>

<p>It all boils down to the beautiful art of growing up. Our tastes in many things change over time. You may have hated spicy food when you were a kid and love it now. The same is true with sex. One thing we may have loved can lose its luster. It might be that you simply need to find a new position that you like or it could be that you need to spice up the ones you love.</p>

There is always an answer.

Here's why that favourite sex position is not working for You

<h1>Having a strong pelvic floor can make orgasms stronger, longer, and better.</h1>

<p>It can also increase sexual feeling, too! Below is all you need to know about your pelvic floor health and sex.</p>

<p>The pelvic floor is the region of muscles that reach from your pelvis to the coccyx (from your vulva region to your tailbone). They are the foundational muscles that keep all of your lower organs in place.</p>

<p>They are also responsible for keeping your urine in your bladder and your core strength on lock. Additionally, your pelvic floor is very important during pregnancy and post-natal recovery.</p>

<p>There is an old myth about the relationship between how many people you’ve banged and how loose your vagina will be which isn't true. The vagina is a muscle-packed area of the body and no amount of sex is going to determine your tightness.</p>

<p>Your entire vaginal system is linked to the strength of your pelvic floor. The only thing that makes your vagina looser is time and age and letting your pelvic floor weaken from lack of exercise.</p>

<p>That being said, there are many other reasons you might have a weak pelvic floor. Sexual trauma and childbirth can weaken your pelvic muscles over time and contribute to sexual pain. Some things are not in our control.</p>

<p>As we get older, we experience large shifts in hormones. We may find a decrease in natural lubrication and libido. A weak pelvic floor can further increase discomfort, leading to pain during sex for some women. Working out your pelvic floor can make orgasms stronger and better.</p>

<p>While having a strong pelvic floor will not make your vagina tighter, it can contribute to increased sexual wellness and pleasure. Doing Kegel exercises can tighten the pelvic floor, leading to increased sensitivity during sexual activity.</p>

A healthy pelvic floor can increase the intensity of your orgasms through heightened muscle strength.

What you should know about pelvic floor health and sex

<h1>Whatever your sexual fantasy is, it is perfectly normal. We think about plenty of things that we may never want to try in real life.</h1>

<p>Maybe you thought you would get the threesome scene of your dreams only to be met with cruel bondage. Sometimes we think we're ready to hear the erotically dark things going on in our partner's mind only to realize we may have crossed a line. Here's what to do when you don't share your partner's sex fantasy.</p>

<p>It doesn't matter how messed up or odd something may seem, fantasies never need to be practiced. If someone feels uncomfortable with the idea of a fantasy, then it should not be done.</p>

<p>It's ok to tell your partner Nope. Perhaps you go with something like, "That's interesting. I don't think I would want to do that in real life, but I'm happy it turns you on."</p>

<p>Sexual desires, no matter what they are, are normal. We think about all kinds of stuff we don't want to do in real life. We may have a ravishment or dominatrix fantasy, and that doesn't mean we actually want to become a leather-clad dominatrix.</p>

<p>In a relationship, there is no room for judgment. We mean it. It doesn't matter how off-putting you find your partner's sexual thoughts; you are not allowed to shame them. Would you want them to shame you for something they find unsavory? We don't think so.</p>

<p>Also, communicating is a huge factor in relationship health. Being able to share openly with your partner is part of the relationship contract. You should be able to open up about all the weird things you've thought about sex and your partner should have that same privilege.</p>

Keep an open mind because you may not be into what you've heard.

Here's what to do if you're not into your partner's sex fantasies

<h1>Is it wrong for me to fantasize about things other than my partner?</h1>

<p>You are definitely not a weird person for fantasizing about someone other than your partner.</p>

<p>However, it's not uncommon to feel shameful. For many people, there is an underlying feeling of guilt if their sexual fantasies turn to something or someone other than their partner.</p>

<p>Sexual desires are similar to dreams — they are symbolic and have more to do with an underlying theme rather than the details of who or what is going on in the fantasy. You don't really have to read too much into it or try to analyze it — just let it build your arousal.</p>

<p>Fantasy is imaginary. Your brain is a very powerful organ. Watching porn, thinking about sex outside your relationship or any other form of alternative scenario is nothing to be worried about.</p>

I fantasize about other things when I am with my partner

<h1>A missing orgasm is a sexual concern that can be addressed and you can overcome.</h1>

<p>Here is what to do if your orgasm has gone missing.</p>

<h3>1. Evaluate the stressful areas of your life</h3>

<p>If you’re getting sexually frustrated and cannot seem to orgasm, look at every area of your life. Is something causing you emotional stress? Our ability to feel sexual pleasure, and to eventually reach orgasm, is often connected to our level of relaxation and sense of unity with the world. It takes a certain sense of focus to orgasm for most women, especially with a partner.</p>

<p>Take your partner out of the equation for a few days. We’re not suggesting being celibate, just take a minute to get back into your own groove. Masturbation is a healthy part of our lives, whether or not we’re in a relationship. Our partners, while we love them dearly, can put pressure on us to have orgasms, whether they mean to or not. We want to please and they want to please us.</p>

<p>If you’ve lost your orgasm, it likely has to do with a disconnectedness you’re feeling to your body and clitoris. We store a ton of negative energy in our bodies. It can cause psychological blocks to our most orgasmic pleasure. When you’re masturbating and having partnered sex, breathe into your body. Take big, long cleansing breaths. Focus on every single little thing you are feeling. Let your mind be one with your pleasure, not distracted by all the annoying things happening in other regions of your personal life.</p>

There are totally orgasms for you!

Here's what you should do if your orgasm goes missing

<h1>Endometriosis happens when uterine tissue forms outside of the uterus. This condition can be extremely painful for many women, especially in the days surrounding your menstrual cycle.</h1>

<p>While some women with endometriosis don’t experience symptoms, most do. Pain is more commonly seen before and during the period and includes painful periods, painful sex, lower back pain, and pelvic pain. Here are some things you can do to make sex better with endometriosis.</p>

<h3>1. Communicate with your partner</h3>

<p>Communication is a huge thing in any healthy relationship, but when you’re dealing with chronic pain it becomes especially important. Now is not the time to bottle up your feelings. Open up and let your partner know what you’re feeling. You have a right to have comfortable sex. If you don’t talk to your partner, there is no way to get around the pain in order to have better sex.</p>

<p>Be explorative and adventurous. You can look at endometriosis as a hardship you can’t deal with, or you can choose to use it as an opportunity to change how you experience pleasure. Try new positions. You may find one that feels more comfortable than others. Don’t be afraid to be creative.</p>

<p>Never ever skip out on lube. No one ever should, but this is especially critical for those dealing with endometriosis. Since vaginal dryness is a common cause of painful sex it’s always best to make sure you have vaginal lubrication during sexual intercourse.</p>

Endometriosis can really mess up your sex life.

3 simple tips for better sex when you have endometriosis

<h1>How much sex is suitable and how often should I be having sex?</h1>

<p>The easiest way to answer this to say that what constitutes "enough" is what works for your particular relationship.</p>

<p>Definitely, quantity is not the only thing to take into consideration. Like many things in life, it's not the quantity, but the quality of sex that counts.</p>

<p>However, if he or she wants sex every day and you want it once a week, you should negotiate and reach a compromise that includes masturbation, foreplay, oral sex, and intercourse.</p>

How much sex is enough?

<h1>Orgasms not only feel freaking amazing, but they also do a lot of fabulous things to your body. We’re not joking. They can, like, make headaches go away and get rid of period cramps.</h1>

<p>Orgasm can reduce headaches. Orgasm has been shown to relieve pain from everything from headaches to hangovers. When you have an orgasm, your brain is flooded with feel-good chemicals.</p>

<p>When you’re hungover as hell after a night out with the girls, it might be a good idea to ask your partner for some oral sex or at least break out the magic wand.</p>

<p>It can also reduce prostate cancer in men. The prostate is a gland located about two to three inches inside of the anus. It creates prostate fluid, one of the main components of semen. If the prostate doesn’t release its fluid, it can become stagnant, which raises the chance of prosthesis and prostate cancer.</p>

<p>Orgasms take care of period cramps. This is especially true for cramps during PMS. If you’re in pain from your oncoming period, try masturbating. That wonderful oxytocin has been shown to greatly reduce period cramps.</p>

<p>Orgasm can also relieve hiccups. Well, it turns out orgasm can actually help take care of those awful hiccups.</p>

<p>The big O can help with morning sickness. Studies have shown that ingesting semen can help reduce the effects of morning sickness. Clearly, the body sees male sperm as an infection, which is why you get sick in the first place.</p>

Engaging in good sexual romp can be entirely life-changing.

Sex relieves period cramps and other great stuff you don't know

<h1>You want to have sexual pleasure and excitement. You know you have the right to that pleasure and excitement!</h1>

<p>But you still falter in making your wishes known most of the time because you don't want to hurt someone's feelings. But here are simple tips to overcoming sexual anxiety.</p>

<p>Take some time together to discuss or write down a few fantasies or sex moves you've always wanted to try. Be sure to be clear that this has nothing to do with your overall sexual satisfaction, but that you want to try something new. Most people are going to be open to the idea of experimenting if you bring it up in a positive way.</p>

<p>If you're interested in experimenting with caution, start by holding your partner heads above their head. See if this is something you both enjoy. When you're trying to get your partner to let go and be adventurous, you have to proceed with caution. People are little irritable when it comes to sex.</p>

<h3>3. Your brain will figure it out</h3>

<p>You'll be surprised how receptive someone can be. Remember that your brain is designed to be an efficient learning machine that quickly becomes adapt to ideas, sensations, and routines. If you build up to bigger, more exciting things - you'll get comfortable with them.</p>

Here's a simple guide to defeating sexual anxiety.

Here's how to get your partner to try new sex styles in bed

<h1>Stress can add a whole lot to the decline in your libido and the stress of life and work is not getting you in the mood by any stretch of the mind.</h1>

<p>Stress is one of all the natural libido killers out there. It is a hidden demon, one that lurks over us, seemingly unable to be controlled. We have busy lives, deadlines, partners, families, and a lot of other things to worry about. Sex just doesn’t feel appealing right now. Check out these ways that stress affects your sex drive.</p>

<h3>1. Your brain tells you this is a dangerous condition</h3>

<p>Stress turns off your brain’s tendency to form sexual desire. Your body is in distress, and therefore it shuts down. Your brain tells your body: We are in distress. Now is not the time to try and procreate. Your body increases heart rate and other bodily functions that will help you escape while turning off those considered by nature to be nonessential. Studies have shown the 10-20 percent of people become more aroused in stressful situations. The point being, not everyone falls under one umbrella.</p>

<h3>2. Your body releases stress hormones</h3>

<p>When you’re under a lot of pressure, your body begins to ooze cortisol, the body’s stress hormone. When cortisol levels go up, libido goes down. High cortisol can even hinder your ability to experience orgasm. You may also experience trouble lubricating and a feeling of sluggishness. When you have orgasms, your body releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine, and cortisol naturally declines.</p>

<p>Self-care is crucial to lowering stress levels. We know, easier said than done. It’s not simple to put time aside for yourself to relax. Devote a half to full hour entirely to yourself, daily. Take a hot bath. Breathe deeply and try to unwind. Going to sleep stressed will only result in poorer sleep quality and residual stress the next day.</p>

People who relax a lot have better sex lives.

This is how stress affects your sex life

<h1>When you’re getting down and dirty, about to have an orgasm, and ready for that sweet release, you might not be considering the power of your brain in sex.</h1>

<p>The brain is actually super important to the whole sexual process. If your brain is not in on the game, you probably won’t even be able to have an orgasm. Your brain is the thing that tells your body it is sex time and your emotions start to pull you toward wanting sexual activity, all thanks to the brain.</p>

<p>Your brain releases dopamine, the motivation hormone, signaling your body to get ready for that hot, hot sexual action. Dopamine makes you want it and triggers the desire to go seek out sex.</p>

<p>The brain is our largest sex organ. All things that happen to your body, every fabulous sensation, is processed in the brain. If you have an orgasm, feel pleasure, or are straight up turned on, the brain is the prime actor in this series.</p>

<p>This is one of the main reasons why focusing on pleasure and quieting your noisy thoughts is important for fulfilling, enjoyable sex. The brain overpowers all physical sensation, it’s a powerhouse in sex.</p>

<p>When you’re having sex and enjoying yourself, the brain is swarmed with feel-good chemicals. Dopamine, as we’ve mentioned, is the body’s motivation hormone, and when you’re having fabulous sex, dopamine is running in high gear. In addition, adrenaline starts to pump wildly, making you feel excited and stimulated. You are</p>

<p>Also, during orgasm, our brains are flooded with even more dopamine and a rush of oxytocin. Oxytocin is known as the love hormone. It’s what makes us feel close to our partner. It also relieves pain! It’s the hormone that gives you a sense of peace and wellness after amazing sex.</p>

<p>There's also the responsive desire which occurs when you’re not feeling particularly sexual or turned on but decided to have sex anyway. You recognize the importance of maintaining a healthy sex life with your partner, so you go ahead with their wish to fool around.</p>

Because there are so many feel-good chemicals to explore.

Here's what happens to the brain during sex

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