Dear Sarah,

How do I tell my partner he doesn't know how to give me an orgasm?

Dear anonymous,

You can communicate your needs without hurting anyone's feelings. It's very likely your partner doesn't know he or she isn't making you come.

You're never going to get there by pretending nothing is wrong. If there is something he or she does that you particularly enjoy, ask them to do that thing. For instance, oral sex is an excellent way for a woman to have an orgasm.

Firstly, show them how you like to be touched. Ask them to keep doing what feels good for you. If you can take some time to- focus entirely on your own body, you'll have a better chance of achieving

Also, vibrators are designed to assist you in having an orgasm.