Dear Sarah,

Is it wrong for me to fantasize about things other than my partner?

Dear anonymous,

You are definitely not a weird person for fantasizing about someone other than your partner.

However, it's not uncommon to feel shameful. For many people, there is an underlying feeling of guilt if their sexual fantasies turn to something or someone other than their partner.

Sexual desires are similar to dreams — they are symbolic and have more to do with an underlying theme rather than the details of who or what is going on in the fantasy. You don't really have to read too much into it or try to analyze it — just let it build your arousal.

Fantasy is imaginary. Your brain is a very powerful organ. Watching porn, thinking about sex outside your relationship or any other form of alternative scenario is nothing to be worried about.