Whatever your sexual fantasy is, it is perfectly normal. We think about plenty of things that we may never want to try in real life.

Maybe you thought you would get the threesome scene of your dreams only to be met with cruel bondage. Sometimes we think we're ready to hear the erotically dark things going on in our partner's mind only to realize we may have crossed a line. Here's what to do when you don't share your partner's sex fantasy.

It doesn't matter how messed up or odd something may seem, fantasies never need to be practiced. If someone feels uncomfortable with the idea of a fantasy, then it should not be done.

It's ok to tell your partner Nope. Perhaps you go with something like, "That's interesting. I don't think I would want to do that in real life, but I'm happy it turns you on."

Sexual desires, no matter what they are, are normal. We think about all kinds of stuff we don't want to do in real life. We may have a ravishment or dominatrix fantasy, and that doesn't mean we actually want to become a leather-clad dominatrix.

In a relationship, there is no room for judgment. We mean it. It doesn't matter how off-putting you find your partner's sexual thoughts; you are not allowed to shame them. Would you want them to shame you for something they find unsavory? We don't think so.

Also, communicating is a huge factor in relationship health. Being able to share openly with your partner is part of the relationship contract. You should be able to open up about all the weird things you've thought about sex and your partner should have that same privilege.

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