There is a lot of pressure to keep sex hot and exciting and not so many articles on taking a break from sex when tired.

While there is a lot of truth to this advice, the fact remains, sometimes you’re just too damn tired to have sex. However, it's ok to be too tired for sex and that doesn't mean your sex life is over. This is why...

1. Make sure to listen to your body

You’re exhausted and want to take a few nights off to rest. On the other hand, you’re told constantly by the media that if you’re too tired for sex, your marriage is in trouble. This clear disregard for our needs can lead to bitterness and exhaustion. You have to give your body what's right for it—and sometimes that means sleep. Listen to your body and help it be its best self.

2. There are other ways to get really intimate

We put so much emphasis on keeping sex hot that we forget to mention that there are other ways to feel intimacy with your partner. You can make out and feel in tune. Perhaps you might go out on a dinner date or make a home-cooked meal together. Hold hands, give each other a massage, snuggle, and be lazy. You don’t require wild, passionate sex every night to have a happy marriage.

3. You don't need to have maintenance sex every day

Maintenance sex shouldn’t be the go-to sex you’re having. If sex is feeling like a burden, it’s perfectly fine to take a break and relax. Sex isn’t a chore to cross off your to-do list. It should be fun—a time to reconnect with your partner and feel a sense of intimacy. If you want to have an orgasm and don’t want to have full-blown sex, masturbate together. It’s intimate and sexy. There is no reason why sex ever has to mean penetration.

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