You want to have sexual pleasure and excitement. You know you have the right to that pleasure and excitement!

But you still falter in making your wishes known most of the time because you don't want to hurt someone's feelings. But here are simple tips to overcoming sexual anxiety.

1. Share a fantasy together

Take some time together to discuss or write down a few fantasies or sex moves you've always wanted to try. Be sure to be clear that this has nothing to do with your overall sexual satisfaction, but that you want to try something new. Most people are going to be open to the idea of experimenting if you bring it up in a positive way.

2. Begin with something small

If you're interested in experimenting with caution, start by holding your partner heads above their head. See if this is something you both enjoy. When you're trying to get your partner to let go and be adventurous, you have to proceed with caution. People are little irritable when it comes to sex.

3. Your brain will figure it out

You'll be surprised how receptive someone can be. Remember that your brain is designed to be an efficient learning machine that quickly becomes adapt to ideas, sensations, and routines. If you build up to bigger, more exciting things - you'll get comfortable with them.

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