Friendship with benefits is one of those relationships people always try to shy away from.
Don't be fooled, though, it happens for real.
In essence, friendship with benefits is what you get when two people [friends] have sex without the commitment and drama associated with out-and-out relationships.
Why this type of relationship does not thrive, or why people don’t often admit indulging in it around these parts is because sex has been societally conditioned to be something to enjoy only when you are married.
If you are not going to marry before doing it, they say, at least be in an exclusive relationship.
Sexual needs matter
Having a partner for just casual sex isn’t often on the cards, but in reality, that’s the only thing one might truly need for an extended period of time.
And this is why: commitment could be so much work sometimes and people are not always ready for that.
Work pressure, school stress and other things happening in your personal space might be so overwhelming. To spare time for all the frills that relationships come with may just be too much for you to handle in those periods.
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You may have so much on your plate and you just need to be on your own, by yourself and live for yourself without having to think of another person at that phase of your life.
If the need for regular or occasional sex remains in all of this, then a friends with benefit relationship is just perfect for you.
And here’s the thing about FWB, it always with a friend. Someone you know and already have a cordial relationship with.
This is not sex with a random stranger who goes his way after everything – that’s a one night stand.
If there’s always been that friend who you could never date but have this thing for, you both could get your thing on, provided you are both mature about it.
However, you need to know that a friend who has romantic feelings for you or whom you have feelings for won’t do. A person with jealousy tendencies and signs of neediness also won’t do.
The bottom line is this: no one has to go through the motions of a relationship just because they need to smash regularly.
If you are not ready for a relationship but need to continue being sexually active, there’s no qualms with having a friend with benefits so far you both understand the terms and conditions involved and remain cool with it.
Don’t be misguided into a relationship simply because you can’t do without smashing. There are people out here who have the same needs.
Go out, locate them and do you.