Readers say they would let go a woman who refuses to marry them

isaac dachen

November 9, 2015 10:35 AM

70% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters say they would let go a woman who refused to marry them after sponsoring her through school.

This is one sad man

A Pulse reader, Ndubuisi, fresh from being hurt by a woman he had sponsored through school with the hope of marrying her, sent in this letter seeking for advice from fellow readers:

"Dear Pulse,

My name is Ndubuisi and I am a business man in based in Lagos though I am from one of the Eastern States. I grew up in a poor home and after I managed to finish primary school, I went to Onitsha to serve a spare parts dealer and after seven years, I was settled by my master and I moved to Lagos to start my own business.

I had vowed that since I was not well educated, I would not a woman who was at my level and when I met a girl in my village, Njideka, I decided to sponsor her education to any level she wanted and she as well as her family promised me we would get married before she rounded up her studies.

I saw her through secondary school and when she got admission into a university, I wanted us to get married immediately but her brothers begged me to allow her get to her third year.

Now Njideka is in her final year but has come out to tell me she cannot marry an illiterate. She said she is in love with a man based in America and that I should calculate all the amount I spent on her so that her husband to be can pay me off.

The annoying thing is her family seem to be in agreement with her, forgetting all I did for them because even while sponsoring her in school, I also brought her brother to learn my trade and I settled him two years ago.

I am devastated and do not know what to do.

Ndubuisi."

The teaser for the day was:

What would you do if a woman you sponsored in school refused to marry you?

How Nigeria voted:

70% - I will let her go as she is not mine

20% - I must make sure she pays back all I spent on her

12% - I will take legal action on her family

How would you vote here?

isaac dachen