Pulse Nigeria is the most followed news and entertainment platform, informing and engaging young Nigerians round the clock, providing updates by the hour.

Pulse Nigeria

Relationships thrive on a healthy mix of support, independence, and balance.

Are you losing yourself in love? 5 signs you’re too dependent in your relationship | Pulse Nigeria

Mildred Xorlali Babantsi

<p>However, sometimes that balance shifts, and one partner becomes overly dependent on the other, potentially leading to emotional strain, loss of individuality, and even resentment over time.</p>

<p>Here are five signs that may indicate you’re leaning too heavily on your partner—and some suggestions on restoring a healthier dynamic.</p>

<h3>1. You’ve Lost Your Sense of Self</h3>

<p>If you find that hobbies, dreams, and values you once held dear have faded or now revolve solely around your partner, you may be sacrificing your identity. No relationship should make you lose your sense of self. While blending interests is normal, losing touch with what makes you unique can lead to feelings of emptiness. </p>

<p>Ask yourself if you’re pursuing personal goals or simply mirroring theirs. Rediscovering passions outside the relationship helps maintain a strong sense of self, which is essential for long-term fulfilment.</p>

<h3>2. You Need Constant Reassurance to Feel Secure</h3>

<p>It's natural to seek comfort from a loved one, but needing frequent validation to feel worthy or loved can signal insecurity. If you find yourself seeking continual affirmation about their feelings or your place in their life, this may stem more from self-doubt than love. </p>

<p>Building confidence in yourself, apart from your partner’s opinion, strengthens emotional resilience and can bring peace to both of you.</p>

<h3>3. You Can’t Make Decisions Without Them</h3>

<p>From small choices, like what to have for lunch, to larger life decisions, feeling paralysed without their input may point to a reliance that limits personal growth. </p>

<p>A healthy relationship encourages individual decision-making, where both partners trust their own judgement and support one another’s choices. Try making small decisions independently, gradually rebuilding trust in your instincts and capabilities.</p>

<h3>4. You Avoid Spending Time Alone</h3>

<p>If the thought of spending time apart brings you anxiety or discomfort, you may be relying on your partner as an emotional crutch. Independence fosters personal growth, so leaning too heavily on someone else can hold you back from experiencing life on your own terms.</p>

<p>Start by dedicating some time each week to solo activities you enjoy, or try exploring new hobbies on your own. You might be surprised by how fulfilling it feels.</p>

<h3>5. You Give In Too Easily During Conflicts</h3>

<p>Compromise is key in relationships, but if you find yourself constantly conceding to keep the peace or to avoid disappointing them, it’s a red flag. True partnership allows room for both voices to be heard, even during disagreements. When one partner consistently suppresses their feelings, resentment can grow, weakening the relationship. Practice voicing your needs calmly and clearly—healthy conflict can strengthen the bond, not weaken it.</p>

<p>Recognising dependency patterns is a step towards nurturing a more balanced relationship. Embracing personal growth, valuing time alone, and fostering open communication can bring a sense of fulfilment that ultimately benefits both you and your partner. In the end, a strong relationship is made up of two whole individuals, each with their own dreams, strengths, and sense of self.</p>

5 signs you’re too dependent in your relationship

Are you losing yourself in love? 5 signs you’re too dependent in your relationship

Pulse Picks

Business

News

Entertainment

Lifestyle

Politics

Local

Metro

World

News 

Celebrities

Music

Movies

Fashion

Beauty & Health

Relationships & Weddings

Food & Travel

Domestic

International 

Sports 

Celebrity Picks

Pulse Marketing

Explore categories

Influencer Awards

Company Pages

Breaking News & Top Stories | Pulse Nigeria

Video

Checkout our authors for the latest content across entertainment, sports, business and more. Be first to receive exclusive updates with your free subscription straight to your phone | Pulse Nigeria 

Authors | Pulse Nigeria

| Pulse Nigeria

Read the latest news across entertainment, sports, business and more. Be first to receive exclusive updates with your free subscription straight to your phone | Pulse Nigeria

Search for the latest content across entertainment, sports, business and more. Be first to receive exclusive updates with your free subscription straight to your phone | Pulse Nigeria

Search Results | Pulse Nigeria

Watch the latest videos across entertainment, sports, business and more. Be first to receive exclusive updates with your free subscription straight to your phone | Pulse Nigeria