I should probably say that this recent revelation was decidedly not the first time Id put something in my ass and enjoyed it. In fact, one of my first writing assignments-way back in 2002-involved me using a butt toy and writing about the experience. And while that experience was a positive one, it was not entirely positive enough for me to use the thing more than my dispatches required. It just seemed like more bother than it was worth.
Years went by before I was on the receiving end of an insertable again-and when I was, it was usually at the behest of a partner. A succession of girlfriends expressed an interest using a strap on and, being up for hijinks, I said sure. While I have fond memories of the power-exchange part of the experience, at the time only two upsetting thoughts filled my mind: that my girlfriend was going to literally rip me a new one, or that I was going to make an epic mess from which our relationship would never fully recover. Luckily, neither of those things came to pass, but still, getting pegged was not something I regularly suggested during a cozy evening at home.
A couple of years ago, however, I started dating a woman who enjoyed wearing a butt plug during sex, and she was the first partner to buy me a matching one. Made by a company called Fun Factory, it was relatively small and innocuous item coated in a velvety silicone and had a cute name: Bootie. She described the feeling of being plugged during sex as being activated, and on several occasions, we had sex while both of us were activated, our matching Booties installed. It added a new, exciting, and egalitarian aspect to sex, but I tended to take mine out partway through our long sessions as the feeling of having something stuck in my craw took away from my orgasms rather than adding to them.
The real difference maker in the way that I feel about butt toys came in the form of a different sex toy-the Pure Wand by Njoy. I originally purchased this heavy, stainless steel implement after a sex coach showed me how effective, not to mention labor-saving, it could be in eliciting female ejaculation. Indeed, every time Ive used it for this purpose, its delivered results that can be best described as being both wet and wild.
The day after one such session, I saw the Pure Wand on my drying rack along with my plates and silverware and, on a whim, decided to check out its utility as a prostate massager. The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that secretes prostatic fluid, and the smooth muscle that surrounds it is what contracts when guys ejaculate. The biological function of the fluid-which makes up around 30 percent of semen-is to carry sperm, which makes up just two percent of semen-to an egg. Stimulated externally by rubbing the taint or internally via the anus, the prostate is also called the male G spot as stimulating can alter and intensify orgasms brought about by the stimulating the penis alone.
Given how many of my partners were fans of simultaneous clitoral and G-spot stimulation, I decided to take the chill off the heavy, curved, stainless steel implement by soaking it in a bowl of hot water and have myself a rainy afternoon adventure. The Pure Wand has two different sized balls on either and, though I usually used the larger one with female partners, I decided that I didnt need to be a hero right off the bat, and went with the smaller one, which is about the size of a cherry tomato. The bedside vat of coconut oil I usually fap with pulled double duty-and with a minimum of fuss, I slid the smaller ball in and made contact with where the prostate is, about two inches into the rectum, towards the belly.
Now, the real difference with the Pure Wand-over things Id put where the sun dont shine before-is that the shape and weight of it make it very easy to wield, even when the other hand is occupied. Moving the exposed end of wand virtually guarantees that the prostate gets rubbed. I knew when I found the optimal depth, pressure, and cadence because I quickly and suddenly found myself at whats scientifically known as ejaculatory inevitability and colloquially referred to as the point of no return.
Realizing that resistance was futile, I carried on and felt an intense, all-body orgasm, the likes of which Id rarely experienced. My skin was goose-pimpled, every hair on my body was standing on end, and it took several beats for my surroundings to come back into focus. While I can never really know, this felt like how female friends and partners had described their orgasms to me.
Though I tried going back to my time-honored method, masturbating without the prostate stimulation that the Pure Wand so ably provides just seems, well, anti-climactic. Consequently, masturbating now involves a few extra steps that make it a little less spontaneous. But then, maybe being more intentional about the orgasm Im planning to have is part of whats makes masturbating with the wand so good.