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Relationship Talk With Bukky: What if your partner decides to take a very long break from sex?

<strong>I met this girl when we were in year one and we started dating. There was no sexual activity for over a year. I started sleeping with her after a year and we were comfortable with each other in the sense that we don't use protection while making love. </strong>
She drinks and cheats on me; but I really want to be there for her [Credit: RealGitz]
She drinks and cheats on me; but I really want to be there for her [Credit: RealGitz]

The problem started when she said that i should ejaculate into her that she was on her safe period. I did as she said. After some few weeks, she told me that she had missed her period. A pregnancy test was done and she was confirmed pregnant and she said that she was not ready to give birth to a child now which I supported. She had abortion which went on successful. 

Since that time she has not allowed me touch her. She said that if I must touch her, it would be after I married her. That she's not going to do any sexual thing with anybody again until she's married. 

I feel really bad whenever she reject my advances. I'm thinking of breaking up with her. What do you suggest I do?

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Dear reader,

In my opinion, I think she is entitled to her opinion and her feelings and how she wants things to be. Whether or not the abortion happened, a woman always has the ultimate decision on what to do with her body. So that should settle that.

Going forward, if sex is really important to you and you can’t stand a relationship without it, staying with her would truly be difficult.

Regardless, I think that there is more to a relationship than sex, especially if you have already been with a woman for the amount of time you’ve been with this babe in question.

You can enjoy a relationship without sex and it is this dimension that you should try and activate rather than leave your girlfriend whom I suppose you already have an understanding and fine relationship with.

All in all, just do what makes you happy. That’s all that really counts.

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