Experts say men get physical as a way to emotionally connect with their partners while women need to feel emotionally connected first before opening up physically.
And sometimes filling this gap could be very difficult for couples which is why you hear of things like 'sexless marriage'- both partners are no longer turned on by each other.
Some husbands complain of difficulty when it comes to turning their wives on...may be they aren't doing something right and will keep getting the opposite of the desired results if they continue.
Lesli Doares of YourTango lists those major turn offs for wives which husbands think are sexy: