Before You Date Someone

chika ebuzor

March 22, 2015 10:47 AM

Bible verse for today: Hebrews 10:24 (NIV) : And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.

The Bible

The issue of dating is a very touchy but yet important issue in life. Most often people who claim to be in love cloud their minds with more emotional issues than is needed.

If you really want your relationship to blossom, you have to sit down and make some drastic decision, pen a plan, talk with your would be spouse on salient issues that might arise in future like the number of children, where you will live etc.

The United Christian Broadcasters-Word For Today has this to say.

Here’s some advice for making your dating experiences something you can feel good about afterwards: 1) Be spiritually prepared. Talk to God while you’re getting ready. Time spent before the mirror is important, but time spent with God is all-important. This is never more so than when you’re looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with.

2) Talk openly about sex before it becomes an issue. Physical intimacy is a wonderful thing, but the Bible confines it to marriage where two people are committed to one another. So think protectively—and proactively. Genuine love doesn’t say, ‘If you loved me you would…’ It says, ‘I love you too much to take advantage of you, or cause you pain, or ask you to do something you feel is wrong and that you’ll feel bad about tomorrow.

3) Limit the time you are alone; it can easily lead to things you’ll regret later. When your friends start saying they never see you anymore, chances are you’re becoming too exclusive, and setting yourself up to fail. Don’t always date as a couple; spend time in the company of others too.

4) Do it right this time. If you’ve been permissive in past relationships, don’t be discouraged. ‘If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins…’ (1 John 1:9 NIV). That means you can start again with a clean slate. The strongest relationships always put God at the centre. They strive to demonstrate the kind of love Paul describes in First Corinthians chapter thirteen. Make a point of reading it today!

chika ebuzor