'My ex's cheating habits is preventing me from loving my new boyfriend'

oge okonkwo

February 12, 2016 11:29 PM

I'm currently in a relationship with a guy who loves me dearly but I can't reciprocate because of my past experiences

Hi Bukky,

My name is Confidence , I have been in several relationships and I ended up breaking up my ex-boyfriends because they kept cheating on me even in my presence.

I'm currently in a relationship with a guy who loves me dearly but I can't reciprocate because of my past experiences. Please what do I do?

Thanks.

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Hello Confidence,

We all know that experience is the best teacher bit it doesn't mean you should hold on tight to your past as you go into the future.

From your explanation in your mail, your heart has obviously been broken in the past too many times. What kind of guys were you dating in the past? Everyone has a type but maybe 'your type' wasn't good for you because you may have lowered your dating standards.

It's good you've found someone who truly loves you, but you should never judge him based on the mistake of your ex-boyfriends. These mistakes are theirs not his own, let him make his own mistakes then you can conclude.

You need to absolutely let go of your past so it doesn't destroy what you have in the future. If you close your heart to someone who is ready to love you, you'll be missing out on that wonderful experience.

Letting go of your past is a gradual process, but with time you'll heal. Discuss your fears with your boyfriend so he can understand and if it’s possible, let him assure you that he won’t do the same.

All the best

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oge okonkwo