Readers say they will help a sexually weak spouse to seek cure

Little did she know that James has a sexual problem and she would be a frustrated married woman because, after six months, her husband has refused to make love to her.

Read her story here:

"My name is Cynthia, a 29-year-old married woman. I got married to James in June of this year after dating for four months.

I met James in my new church after I was transferred to Abuja from my base in Lagos. Before I met James, I was going through a crisis after my fiance of six years dumped me and got married to another woman chosen for him by his family.

In fact, the reason I asked my company to transfer me to our Abuja branch was to get away from the hurt and disgrace that my fiance had put me through. I was terribly distraught and I even contemplated suicide but for my friends and family who stood by me.

I was in Abuja for six months before I met James. Before then, I threw myself into church activities as a way of battling the demons of rejection I had been battling.

I joined the choir and witness group in the church and my zeal was not hidden as the pastor always singled me out for praises and commendation.

James on his part is also a church worker and one of the most sought after bachelors with many ladies always dreaming of having him as a husband, so it was a surprise when he approached me and said he would like to marry me.

At first, I did not take him very serious because then, I saw every man as the same, not after what my fiance had done to me with the love I gave him.

But he persisted and even told the pastor about his intentions. The pastor called us and told us to pray over the relationship.

After four months of the courtship which was without sex or any intimate relations, we got married.

But it has been six months now and my husband has refused to make love to me. Anytime I talk to him about it, he will say sex is not food and as such, not the most important thing to him.

I suspect he has sexual problems because no matter what I do, his manhood refuses to get erect. I have tried to talk him into seeing a doctor but he would have none of that.

I am at a loss on what to do to save my marriage because apart from being starved sexually, I want to have my babies.

Cynthia."

The teaser for the day was:

What would you do if your new spouse refuses to have sex with you?

How Nigeria voted:

I will leave him/her immediately - 25%

I will endure with the situation instead of complaining - 15%

I will get sexual satisfaction outside - 16%

I will encourage him to see a doctor - 44%

What would be your vote here?