Readers say a woman who is being abused should file for a divorce

isaac dachen

June 15, 2016 10:43 AM

A whopping 53% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters are in agreement that a woman who is being physically abused by her husband should file for a divorce immediately.

This worried woman needs your advice (Illustration)

Read her pathetic letter here:

"I am Amarachi and I have been married for 12 years with five children but I am not enjoying my marriage one bit because my once loving husband has turned me into his punching bag.

When we got married, Jude was the best man any woman would love to have for a husband. In fact, he was so gentle that he could not hurt a fly but if anyone told me Jude will turn out to be the beast he has turned out to be.

I can't really say when it started but I think after our third child was born that we had a very serious quarrel that led Jude to slapping me. That day, he had come home drunk, something that was very rare for him. Not that he did not drink but he had never been that drunk and when I told him I was not happy with the way he was, he got mad and slapped me.

I was shocked because this was a man who never raised his hands on me even when we were dating. In the morning, he apologized profusely and attributed his action to the drinks. He begged and begged and I had to forgive him. Looking back now, I think I should have stood up to him but since it was the first time, I forgave him, not knowing that I was opening a door for more abuse to come.

And since then, it has been the same, even getting worse at times when he would beat me so bad I had to be hospitalized. I have scars and bruises all over my body and after every beating, he would beg and cry, blaming everything but himself for snapping.

I am in a serious dilemma at the moment. I am fed up of this marriage and I am contemplating filing for a divorce but my friends say I should think of my young children, saying they would suffer without their father. I also dread being a divorcee and living on my own.

Amarachi."

What should a woman whose husband beats regularly do?

How Nigeria voted:

She should divorce the man immediately - 53%

She should endure for the sake of the children - 6%

She should pray for God to change him - 42%

How would you vote here?

isaac dachen