'My father has vowed to disown me if I marry a woman I love'

isaac dachen

February 16, 2017 9:33 AM

In this age and time, some communities in the eastern parts of Nigeria still see some people as outcasts due to the sins of their forefathers.

A sad black man

My father is truncating my joy by insisting I love because she is from a community branded as outcasts or like they call it in my place, the 'Osu Caste'.

It is quite embarrassing and very painful that no one thinks about my happiness as all they worry about is what people will say and the fact that our family will be ostracized.

I met in Lagos where she works as a nurse two years ago and I must say that since she came into my life, I have known nothing but peace, joy, and love.

Oluchi loves and care about me so much and I had promised her that only death can separate us but my parents, especially my father who is a titled man and a member of the traditional ruler's council says he would not only disown me but make sure I am prevented from entering our family house or have a share of the family inheritance.

Other members of my family too are in support of his stand and every day, I am harassed by them with many calling me derogatory names just because I insist on getting married to someone I love.

I have tried to let my father know that in this age and time, the outcast system should have been thrown away and discarded but he is not ready to listen to me.

My problem is not about not getting my inheritance, after all, I have my business which is thriving well but what I dread is not getting my family's blessings in my marriage because as an African, I know how important this is.

Should I go ahead and marry Oluchi and damn any consequence or let her go no matter how painful this might be?

Nduka."

Dear readers, on Morning Teaser today, we want you to help Nduka with some good advice on what he should do in this situation he has found himself.

isaac dachen