'After 2 kids, my husband has stopped having sex with me'

isaac dachen

April 27, 2017 9:35 AM

At 30, Eve is still a young woman but her husband is starving her sexually and she is tempted to get a man who would be able to satisfy her.

This worried woman needs advice (Illustration)

When we got married, sex seemed to be the only thing on Henry's mind as he was always in the mood. We would make love between four to five times before morning but when he wakes up, he will be ready to go for it again.

There were days he skipped work and we would spend the whole day making love. We had sex in the bathroom, in the kitchen, in the car, just anywhere it caught our fancy.

I became the envy of my friends whenever we tell women stories as many of them felt I had the perfect marriage with some even begging me playfully to allow them to have my husband just for a day.

But after we had our two kids, I began to notice Henry's disinterest in sex and his performances began to dwindle. When we had sex on a regular basis, it trickled down to twice a week till it petered out and we could for two months without sleeping together.

At first, I was not bothered as I thought he would come round to it after the babies are weaned but I was wrong because Henry began to starve me of sex for months on end.

It got to a point I would be begging him to sleep with me but he would rebuff me. At times, he would tell me I should relive the moments we had sex every other day and wallow in the fantasy.

When I pestered him for long, he told me he was no more interested in sex as he had had enough to last him a lifetime.

He even told me sex is not food and that if I feel so sex starved, I should get a man to satisfy me. That statement has left me thinking if I should not heed his advice and get a man to satisfy me in sex since my husband is no longer interested in sex.

I am still a young woman who loves and enjoys sex and though many will say sex is not everything, others will agree with me that every normal woman needs sex regularly.

Eve."

Dear readers, after going through Eve's story on Morning Teaser today, what would you advise her to do in this situation?

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